Educate Yourself

I feel like I reached a turning point when I had language for the behaviors that I was witnessing and for the experiences that I had gone through. I could name them. I read about the psychology behind it. I researched so I had a better understanding. By doing that, pieces started to fall into place and I was better able to verbalize to other people what was going on. I was better able to document what was happening. In doing so, I was able to educate others too.

You’re a zero. You’ve got nothing in your brain.

Things screamed at me during arguments. That’s hard to hear over and over again. And even harder to separate yourself from. But with knowing that this is projection and that this is most likely what the narcissist is feeling about themselves, it’s easier to understand that it isn’t you.

There are good resources out there. Put names to the behaviors. In doing so, you will better be able to detach yourself and stop blaming yourself for what is happening. Because ultimately, that is what happens with narcissistic, emotional abuse…it is internalized.